I’m Changing the Narrative

Me doing my ever-upward-and-onward thing

Me doing my ever-upward-and-onward thing

Seth Godin is a smart man. Here’s what he said yesterday.

Living with what happens next

Most people are okay with living with the consequences of what happens.

The hard part is living with our narrative about how it happened and why.

If your plane is late and you miss the meeting and you don’t close the sale, well, you didn’t get the work.

But if your meeting is missed because you planned poorly, the story you tell yourself about why you didn't get the sale might just be worse than the business impact of not having been to the meeting.

Stress in a typical job isn’t the stress of losing or being killed in action, it’s the stress of imagining the narrative of failure in advance, the self-shaming and the what-ifs. When we leave those out, we get a chance to do our real work, undistracted by drama, cliffhangers and blame.

“Imagining the narrative of failure in advance.”

I do that a lot. I mean, a lot, as in more than ninety percent of the time.

“They” say we create our reality moment by moment, both on the level of raw input (sight, sound, touch, etc.) and the higher, more abstract levels (sense of self, perception of relationships, worldview, belief system, etc.).

If that’s true, then what’s to stop me—or you—from changing the narrative? I am, after all, an author. I write stories all the time.

I think I’ll begin a new chapter in my life’s story today.

How about you?

The Beauty That Still Remains

Here's the way NBC's Meet the Press opened today (transcript here).

(begin tape)

Chuck Todd: This Sunday, a nation divided.

Diamond Reynolds: Oh, my God, please don't tell me he's dead.

Chuck Todd: A week that began with the shooting of two African-American men by police officers.

Diamond Reynolds: I wanted everybody in the world to see what the police do.

Chuck Todd: Ends this way, with the killing of five police officers at a Black Lives Matter rally in Dallas.

Dallas Police Chief David Brown: The suspect stated he wanted to kill white people, especially white officers.

Chuck Todd: And sparks protests across the country.

Protestors: Black lives matter! Black lives matter!

Chuck Todd: From policing to politics, the country seems increasingly divided. This Sunday morning, I'll talk to the Head of Homeland Security, two top cops trying to change the way police do their job and two top senators, a Republican and a Democrat, each a former mayor.

So much ink, so many digital bits have been spilled over the recent violence rocking the United States. I won't opine on it, because I don't believe my thoughts and feelings will be additive or helpful. But I do have something to share on the issue.

A Facebook friend recently posted in despair over the events Chuck Todd discussed on Meet the Press. I replied with a little poster I made.

You see, part of the way I cope with the emotional roller coaster life and the world make me ride is by putting pictures and quotations together. Doing this helps me focus on what matters. Sometimes it's comforting; other times, not so much.

I hope what came to me this time brings you some solace.

Peace to you in the midst of the storm that surrounds us all.

Anne Frank died at the age of fifteen when a typhus epidemic swept through the Holocaust camp where she was imprisoned. She was buried in a mass grave with her sister. 

Anne Frank died at the age of fifteen when a typhus epidemic swept through the Holocaust camp where she was imprisoned. She was buried in a mass grave with her sister.